Top 6 Things NOT To Do When Getting Divorced

Top 6 Things NOT To Do When Getting Divorced - Resolve Conflict Family LawyersWhen you are going through a divorce it’s only natural to find that your emotions are running high at certain stages of the process. Though stressed and emotional it’s important to remember that any decisions you make can carry profound implications for your familial, emotional or financial situation for years to come.

Here are 6 tips on what NOT to do whilst getting divorced:

1. Don’t use the kids as pawns

Divorce can be especially difficult for children, without them feeling like they are in a tug-of-war over which parent they love more. Now more than ever children need support from both parents, rather than making them pick a side.

2. Don’t make decisions without fully understanding the implications

Now is not the time to be a bystander on what is going on. “Read as much as you can, go to free (or paid) consultations with various professionals (mediators, attorneys, divorce coaches and more). The more information you have regarding your rights and options, the better decisions you will be able to make.”[1]

3. Don’t dismiss to options of Collaborative Divorce or Mediation

Collaborative Family Law or Mediation is often a great option for couples that are able to remain amicable and have a good understanding of their financial standing. Most importantly they want to retain control of what happens to their family and wish to resolve their differences respectfully and privately out of Court.

Related Article: How to Avoid A Messy and Costly Divorce

4. Don’t let your emotions dictate your actions

“Whether it’s sadness, anger, pain, or even relief, divorces are riddled with emotions, and that’s ok. But it’s important to remember not to let those feelings steer the ship.”[2] Divorce is a legal matter and emotions though hard to put aside can interfere with you obtaining a favourable result.

5. Don’t make your private life public

Divorce has the potential to get messy quickly, particularly if private matters or emotional outburst are being shared publicly on social media.

6. Don’t keep things from your lawyer

Remember your lawyer is in your corner. You need to give your lawyer a full picture and understanding of your goals so they can successfully formulate a strategy to achieve your goals.


Note: This is general information advice only and does not constitute specific legal advice. If you would like further information in relation to this matter or other legal matters, please contact us on 03 9620 0088 or email



[1] Rozen Dr M 2013, ‘The 5 Worst Mistakes People Make During Divorce’, Huffingto Post, 24th July, viewed 18th April 2018,

[2] Martin E 2017, ‘7 things you should never do if you’re about to get divorced’, Business Insider Australia, 9th February, viewed 18th April 2018,

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