How To De-Stress During A Divorce

How To De-Stress During A Divorce - Resolve Conflict Family LawyersDivorce is among the toughest experiences you can endure, the process is  filled with complex feelings around loss, which can induce high levels of stress. Acknowledging and dealing with stress is an important aspect of living a healthy life. Below are some suggestions for ways of handling your stress during the difficult process of divorce.

Seek support

Understanding your own emotions and well-being is easier done when you are able to relate to other people or feel like you are being heard. Seeking a support group or talking to a counsellor or therapist can reduce the feeling of overwhelming emotion and stress.

Keep physically fit

It is well documented that keeping active helps our emotions, relieves tension, anger and anxiety. The good news is that any level of exercise will help you reap these benefits. “Exercise in almost any form can act as a stress reliever. Being active can boost your feel-good endorphins and distract you from daily worries.”[1]

Don’t dwell on problems out of your control

Being concerned over things you cannot control will inevitably cause stress. Try and let go of problems beyond your control and stay focused on what you are able to control. This is true of both practical and emotional concerns.

Related Article: Top 6 Things NOT To Do When Getting Divorced

Allow yourself to feel

The process of divorce can be like a roll-a-coaster, with positive and negative emotions. This is a time to take control of your life and decisions that can potentially affect your future, don’t allow your emotions cloud your judgement.

Don’t make hasty decisions

“When you are living ​in a highly stressful situation any decisions or changes to your life should not be made until you have thought of all the consequences.

Take time to think things through and thoroughly weigh all your options. When making decisions use logical thinking instead of emotional thinking to guide your decision making. Give yourself time and be patient with the decision-making process.”[2]

Distract yourself and have fun

Distraction is a great way to give your conscious mind a break. Finding enjoyable hobbies or activities is a great way to distract yourself and have fun. Remember laughter is the best medicine!

Focus on the future

You are on the precipice of a new life, which understandably can be daunting but also exhilarating. Your life is what you make of it, so make it about you.


Note: This is general information advice only and does not constitute specific legal advice. If you would like further information in relation to this matter or other legal matters, please contact us on 03 9620 0088 or email




[1] Mayo Clinic Staff, 2018, ‘Exercise and stress: Get moving to manage stress’, Mayo Clinic – Healthy Lifestyle Stress Management, 8 March, viewed 6 June 2018,

[2] Meyer C, 2018, ‘9 Tips for Dealing With Divorce Stress’, Live About, 8 March, viewed 6 June 2018,

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