Top Secrets To A Successful Marriage

Part in parcel of being a Family Law firm is that we often are discussing and focused on separation, divorce and how the family unit can best legally, emotionally and logistically handle changes in the family dynamics during and after divorce.

Today however, we’ve decided to compile the top secrets to a successful marriage, according to highly regarded marriage therapists and counsellors.

 

Celebrate good news

“Research shows that couples who regularly celebrate the good times have higher levels of commitment, intimacy, trust, and relationship satisfaction…It’s not enough that your partner knows that you take pride in his or her accomplishments. You have to show it. Making a fuss over the small, good things that happen every day can boost the health of your marriage.”[1]

Be independent

“In order to be happy in a relationship, we must be happy first. That is, in fact, the key to a successful marriage. With that in mind, wives and husbands must continue to take out time for themselves, enjoy their personal hobbies, and in general, spend some time apart.  Not only does absence make the heart grow fonder, but in the time we spend alone, we get to reunite with our spiritual side, re-establish our sense of self, and check in with the progress of our personal preferences, goals, and achievements.”[2]

Know how to compromise

“Both of you realise that it is not your way, all the time. You are able to make room your partner’s needs and settle on a middle ground or accommodate their requests, just as often as you are willing to fight for your own needs to be met.”[3]

Learn to fight fair

“Be respectful even when you argue. Especially when you argue. Don’t be hurtful just to make points.”[4]

Communication is the key

“Couples need to be able to share feelings with one another, talk about difficult subjects and remain civil to one another. Even when you would rather sweep something under the rug, you and your partner need to find a way to muddle through a challenging conversation.”[5]

Date night

“Among the other tips for a successful marriage, this tip is the most ignored and overlooked by couples, especially those who have been married for a while. It does not matter what a couple does on their date night. Simply having a night when they spend their time just with each other strengthens the bond and maintains it over time. When you have date night, you should turn your phones off and put them away so you are free of distractions. Change it up often and be helpful and positive for one another.”[6]

 

Note: This is general information advice only and does not constitute specific legal advice. If you would like further information in relation to this matter or other legal matters, please contact us on 03 9620 0088 or email info@resolveconflict.com.au

 

 

 

 

[1] Barker E, 2014, ‘Recipe For A Happy Marriage: The 7 Scientific Secrets’, TIME, 20 March, viewed 11 July 2018, http://time.com/30921/recipe-for-a-happy-marriage-the-7-scientific-secrets/

[2] 2018, ’15 Key Secrets To A Successful Marriage’, Marriage.com, 29 May, viewed 11 July 2018, https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/15-key-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage/

[3] Milrad R, 2017, ‘7 Secrets To A Successful Marriage’, Huffington Post, 28 June, viewed 11 July, https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/7-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage_us_59530e79e4b0c85b96c65db4

[4] Hillin T, 2014, ’21 Secrets To Wedding Bliss From Happily Married Couples’, Huffington Post, 9 May, viewed 11 July 2018, https://www.huffingtonpost.com.au/entry/marriage-advice_n_5762470

[5] Milrad R, 2017, ‘7 Secrets To A Successful Marriage’, Huffington Post, 28 June, viewed 11 July, https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/7-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage_us_59530e79e4b0c85b96c65db4

[6] 2018, ’15 Key Secrets To A Successful Marriage’, Marriage.com, 29 May, viewed 11 July 2018, https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/15-key-secrets-to-a-successful-marriage/