How To Tactfully Tell Your Partner You Want A Prenup

by Resolve Conflict on October 1, 2019

How To Tactfully Tell Your Partner You Want A Prenup - Resolve Conflict Family LawyersBroaching the topic of a prenuptial agreement with your partner can potentially be a bit of a prickly conversation. However, with 1 in 3 marriages in Australia ending in divorce, having set out and agreed on how your assets would be split in the event of divorce is a perfectly reasonable safeguard for both parties in any relationship.

Here we discuss the best ways to tactfully tell your partner you want a prenuptial agreement.

Have the conversation as early as possible

The earlier in your relationship you can propose the subject of a prenup the better. Your partner is less likely to be so open to discussing a prenup if it’s just weeks leading up to your wedding.

Discuss your why

Be transparent with the reason why you want a prenup. For instance, is it to protect the interest of your own business or the family business? Your partner will definitely want to understand why you want a prenup so being prepared with a genuine answer will stand you in good stead.

Timing is crucial

Successfully bring up the wish of wanting a prenuptial agreement is all about being tactful with your timing and place. The middle of a disagreement is the worst time to introduce the idea to your partner.

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Be straightforward

It’s important to be clear and straightforward about the wish to have a prenuptial agreement and the why. Don’t leave room for misunderstandings that can cause upset and confusion down the track.

Remember this is a conversation not a demand

Don’t start the conversation with “we’re getting a prenup” rather use language that allows for an open and honest conversation with your partner rather than language that will make them defensive or overly reactive. Remember this is a sensitive subject.

Really listen

Being able to listen and understand your partner is important to alleviate any worries or objections they may have. Remember a prenup needs to be agreed by the both of you.

Reassure your partner

Lastly nonetheless most importantly you need to reassure your partner that you don’t wish for a prenup because you anticipate that your relationship will end. Reiterating that a prenuptial agreement is just a safeguard like insurance to protect their financial independents, as well as yours is fundamental.

Discussing a prenuptial agreement with your partner is always going to be a delicate conversation, however, hopefully with the above tips you are able to navigate it as smoothly and productively as possible.


Note: This is general information advice only and does not constitute specific legal advice. If you would like further information in relation to this matter or other legal matters, please contact us on 03 9620 0088 or email

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