Divorced Parents Holiday Survival Guide

by Resolve Conflict on November 26, 2019

Divorced Parents Holiday Survival Guide - Resolve Conflict Family LawyersIt’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas and as the end of the year draws closer with summer holidays only a few weeks away it’s a poignant time for separated parents to work towards creating a harmonious, fun and magical time for their children.

Unfortunately, for many separated families what is meant to be a fun family period, can often be fraught with sadness, disappointment and dissonance for children of divorced parents. Not to mention being a stressful and often tense time for the parents.

To make things as stress-free as possible, here are our top tips on how to keep the holiday cheer alive for you and your children:

Stay focused on the children

Christmas is a time for family, but it is also a very special time in your child’s life. Think about what is in the best interest of your children rather than what best suits you. When organising travel and shared time, remember to take into account how that will affect your children’s experiences and time spent with each side of their family.

Plan ahead of time

As the saying goes “fail to plan, plan to fail”. The earlier you and your co-parent can work out exactly what each one and the children expect out of the holidays the better. This will give you both time to work out the logistics and confirm plans with your extended families.

Related Article: Making Christmas Parenting Arrangements

Be Flexible

Successful co-parenting requires a certain amount of leniency, compromise and common sense. Negotiating and swapping your time with the children to fit in with family visiting form interstate or other special events, is likely to be in the best interest of your children; find ways for everyone to “win”.

Don’t out-Santa each other

On top of planning the logistics of the holiday period, it may be worthwhile discussing what gifts the children will be receiving from each parent and Santa. Discussing expected budgets, number of presents and what type of presents will ensure that firstly there are no double ups, however will also keeping it fair between you and your co-parent to avoid tension and arguments. Don’t outdo each other. Remember the spirit of the holidays and avoid trying to buy the children off with magnificent presents.

New and old traditions

Children love routine and ritual, so keep a few family traditions if you can. However, this is also a great opportunity for you to create new and meaningful traditions with your children. Engage your children to contribute to creating new traditions that are meaningful to them.

The holiday season is often a stressful time for most families, however if you and your co-parent are able to put the children first, whilst rebuilding new traditions and a sense of family, you can make this holiday and future holiday season stress-free and fun for all.

Note: This is general information advice only and does not constitute specific legal advice. If you would like further information in relation to this matter or other legal matters, please contact us on 03 9620 0088 or email info@resolveconflict.com.au


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